Ask Mom if She has a Will
The family was baffled. Not only was the will out of date, but it was also unsigned and the person named as executor had died a decade before their mother died. Grandchildren born after the will was created were not mentioned and personal possessions left to some people in the will had been given away years ago.
This scenario, as described in the article “Mom, Do You Have a Will?” from Next Avenue, is not unusual because many older adults and their children are equally reticent to discuss death. It’s a hard topic to address, but without these conversations, how can you make sure the transition after they pass is smooth?
Who needs a will? Pretty much everyone does. If your parents don’t have a will, here are some talking points to remind them of why it matters:
- If you are part of a blended family, estate planning avoids either a full or partial disinheritance of a surviving spouse or their children.
- If there are minor children or adult children with special needs, a will is used to appoint guardians. With no will, the court makes decisions about who raises children or cares for a special needs individual.
- If yours is a fighting family (you know who you are), and if you want certain things to go to certain people, there needs to be an updated will.
Single people need a plan for their assets, especially if they are in a committed relationship but not married. Louisiana inheritance law makes no provision for a domestic partner. If a relationship is recognized before a loved one dies the remaining partner can access their right to property or benefits.
When someone dies without a will or a living trust, known as intestate succession, assets may be distributed according to rules set out in state law, which vary state to state and may not be what they would have wanted.
When asked if there is a will, some may say they are prepared. However, as in the example, this may or may not be true. Their will may be old, no longer relevant to their situation or may not have been signed.
Clarifying the status of an older adult’s will is important to a smoother transition of assets and needs to be addressed when they are of sound mind and able to make their own decision about their estates.
When preparing to have a discussion with someone who is active and healthy, the conversation is easier. Ask if they have a will and what their wishes are after they have passed. You can explain how these steps are essential to creating their legacy and protect their family from estate taxes and expensive court oversight.
When a person is seriously ill, this is admittedly a harder conversation. Acknowledge the difficulty and let them know they can stop the discussion if necessary. It may take more than a few conversations to get to everything. Discuss these issues with respect and empathy. Offer ideas and options and steer clear of any ultimatums.
Talk with an estate planning attorney who will explain what you need for your specific family. Find someone who focuses on estate planning and not six other areas of the law. They will have seen this situation before and will know how to manage both the law and the people. Find someone who doesn’t see this as a one-time fill-in-the blanks transaction, but as a relationship based on trust.
BOOK A CALL with me, Ted Vicknair, Louisiana Board Certified Estate Planning and Administration Specialist, Louisiana Board Certified Tax Law Specialist, and Louisiana CPA to learn more about estate planning in Louisiana, incapacity planning, and Louisiana asset protection.
If you liked this article, “Ask Mom if She has a Will” read also these additional articles: What Should I Know About Long-Term Care? and What Do Seniors Say About Aging in Place? and The Difference between Revocable and Irrevocable Trust and What Is Asset Protection Planning?
Reference: Next Avenue (Sep. 14, 2022) “Mom, Do You Have a Will?”
